Ryan Therapy Services can help you and your partner cultivate a sustainably vibrant, intimate, sexual relationship in a safe, non-judgmental, sex positive environment. Get started today.
I am a systemically trained relationship therapist who has specialized training in sex therapy. I work from a sex positive approach that respects and supports sexual expression, experiences and exploration of all kinds within the context of full, enthusiastic consent between all those involved.
Common Challenges that I address in Sex Therapy are:
- Mismatched desire, low desire, no desire
- Difficulty with Orgasm
- Sexual Pain Issues
- Erectile Dysfunction
- Ejaculation Challenges
- Sex during times of illness (sub-speciality of sex and breast cancer)
- Sex after an Affair
- Kink and BDSM
- Consensual Non-Monogamy/Polyamory
- Sex and Aging
- Sex During Pregnancy and Post-partum
- Body Image and Diet Culture
- Negative Sexual Beliefs or Scripts learned from socio-cultural influences, family of origin and insufficient, fear-based sexual education.
- Anxiety During Sex
- Sacred Sexuality
Sex therapy helps clients:
- Address and overcome sexual challenges in a safe, non-judgmental space
- Release negative beliefs and anxiety about sex
- Learn new ways of thinking about, talking about, and understanding their own sexual selves that liberates them from shame, guilt and fear.
- Understand and celebrate their own cycles of desires and arousal patterns
- Connect with their erotic truth
Working with a sex therapist can help clients overcome challenges and feel joyful and confident in their sexuality both with one’s self and within relationships.
Sex is an essential aspect of our well-being and of strong, connected, intimate partnerships.
When we can develop confident, empowered sexual identities and can express ourselves in a confident, joyful and empowered way, we create satisfying, affirming, loving, life-giving experiences and interactions.
If we choose it to be so, our sexuality can be a powerful conduit for love.
It has tremendous potential to restore a sense of connection to self and others and to the world in which we live; a sense of wholeness; a sense of TRULY being ALIVE.
Sexuality offers us the experience of being fully in our bodies, being fully in the present moment, and giving and receiving without judgment, shame, and cultural constraints.
The Shadow-Side of Sex
However, for many of us, this is not the experience of sex.
Often, humans experience the shadow side of sexuality; which is the side in which we experience the destructiveness of betrayal, trauma, pain and grief, exclusion, judgment, shame, isolation, rejection, and deep disconnection from self and other.
And when humans experience the shadow side of sexuality, it is so profound, that we can even lose faith and hope in the healing, transformative power of love.
If our sexual life and relationships are suffering, it is difficult to feel fully alive and engaged with life. We know something is missing. And usually, we blame either ourselves or our partners, which then makes our suffering even greater.
Ryan Therapy Services is passionate about helping clients explore their own and their partner(s) eroticism and sexuality in a sex-positive, non-judgmental, supportive context.
Sex Therapy helps clients of all sexual identities:
- Heal old wounds from cultural, family, religious, patriarchal, heteronormative, sexist, racist, privileged messages.
- Re-write these sexual scripts and beliefs that have been absorbed since birth.
- Create new maps, new language, and new paradigms that welcome the uniqueness of true sexual liberation.
- Expand your definition of pleasure.
- Expand your ideas of your own sexual self and how you want to express this.
- Identify and release obstacles and challenges within yourselves, within your relationships and within your lives which may be preventing you from experiencing a sense of deep connection and belonging, pleasure and joy, and the satisfaction and fulfillment that comes from embracing your true, erotic and sexual nature.
A Sex-Positive Approach
Many cultural forces work to define sex from a negative, shame-based and fear-based perspective. As a result of these powerful cultural influences, many individuals struggle with feelings of anxiety, shame, and guilt around their own sexuality. Adding to this, for many of us, is a lack of quality sexual education.
A sex-positive approach is a way of thinking about sex and integrating sexuality into one’s life and relationships with acceptance, a non-judgmental attitude, curiosity, respect, and trust. It embraces all kinds of sexual activity and expression as long as it is consensual and does not hurt others.
It moves away from thinking about sex from a “performance-based” model and moves toward thinking about sex as a positive, loving force originating in one’s deepest erotic self.
Please Reach Out Today
If your heart and soul deeply desires a more fulfilling, satisfying, and intimate sexual experience, Ryan Therapy Services invites you to take the next step and call for an appointment today.
It is Time
Time to honor yourself, your partner(s) and your intimate relationship(s).
Time to prioritize your sexuality and recognize it as an essential component of your overall well-being and quality of life.
Ryan Therapy Services is inviting you to explore your own sexuality and your partner’s(s) sexuality, especially if:
- You struggle to express your deepest desires for fear of rejection, being judged or misunderstood.
- You want to open up to your partner, both emotionally and physically, but you were taught as a child to never allow yourself to be vulnerable.
- You experience guilt, shame, anxiety, a feeling of inadequacy or fear in your sexual experiences.
- You define asking for what you want as “selfish” and so you avoid being clear about your wants, desires, hopes, etc.
- You are afraid to or do not know how to, talk to your partner about what you want sexually. You know what you want, but are afraid of being judged.
- You do not know what you want sexually but are aware that some of your ideas and beliefs about sex no longer fit for you.
- You are having frequent sex, but do not enjoy the sex you are having.
- You are not having sex as much as you would like.
- You worry that your partner is no longer attracted to you; or, you are no longer attracted to your partner.
- You can’t relax during sex and find yourself being self-critical or distracted.
>> Learn more about Sacred Sexuality by visiting our Sacred Sexuality Frequently Asked Questions page.
>> You can also visit the page for my Sacred Sexuality Course starting June 22nd 2020.