When was the last time you reflected on your sexual script? Your sexual script is all of the beliefs, values, messages, “should’s” and “should-not’s” you have concerning your sexual desires and behavior. Our scripts have a huge influence on why we do what we do and why we don’t do what we don’t do, sexually. We develop scripts over our lifetime and they come from our family, relationship experiences, our culture, society, religion, myths about sexuality, movies, music, etc. Often we are responding to our scripts without a clear awareness of how they are influencing us, our choices and our behaviors.
It may be time for you to re-evaluate your script. Think about the ideas, beliefs, and messages you are holding on to about sex and your sexuality which determine the choices, responses and feelings you have. Where did they come from? Do they still fit for you? Do they help you to experience sexual satisfaction and pleasure? Or are some of them outdated and contribute to feelings of dissatisfaction and displeasure? Does your script help you to create the kind of sexual experiences that match your values and your true self? By reflecting on these things, you can begin to clarify what is important to you and what you need to experience fulfilling, satisfactory, pleasureful sexual interactions and relationships.