How engaged are you with your partner when he/she is sharing an emotion or experience?
Do you find yourself thinking of other things, feeling bored, starting to feel defensive, hurrying them along so that you can talk….
Or are you fully focused on them, ask questions out of a true desire to understand their world, and initiate questions filled with empathy and compassion?
It takes self awareness and honesty to assess your engagement practices. If, after some reflection, you realize you are not where you want to be to create a mutually supportive and authentic relationship, then think about where you would want to be on this continuum and what it will take from within yourself to get there.
You can build the emotional muscle to be the kind of partner you aspire to be… with honest reflection and an open heart you can begin to experience deeper connection and immeasurable rewards!