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Differences: How Healthy Marriages Welcome Them
Practice #4 of 6 Core Practices to Create a Healthy Marriage My ebook, Transform Your Relationship: 6 Core Practices to Create a Healthy Marriage, details essential practices you and your partner can work on to strengthen your connection and build a better relationship. The fourth practice I write about in the ebook is Accept, Welcome and Integrate the Differences. […]
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How to Move from Loneliness to True Intimacy (and Transform Your Relationship)
Practice #1 of 6 Core Practices to Create a Healthy Marriage In my ebook, Transform Your Relationship: 6 Core Practices to Create a Healthy Marriage, I offer 6 core practices you can engage in with your partner to strengthen your connection and build intimacy. The first practice I discuss is Developing Self Awareness and Acceptance. Without […]
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Transformation, Truth, and Authenticity
Poet Adrienne Rich defined love this way: “An honorable human relationship – that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love” – is a process… delicate… and often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other. It is important to do […]
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How to Create a Healthy, Vibrant Relationship Without Couples Therapy
Don’t you wish there was a class to take in high school or college that taught you how to be a good partner in your intimate relationship? That your parents talked more openly and taught you more about what constitutes healthy, sexual relationships? And that your parents modeled how to effectively resolve conflict by how […]
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How to Bring Up Couples Therapy with Your Partner (6 Dos and Don’ts)
Picture this: You and your partner are about to take off for a lovely romantic weekend away together. As you both are getting ready, a recurring issue surfaces between you. Before you know it, you both are arguing, angry, hurt, and feeling misunderstood. You find yourself having second thoughts about your “lovely romantic weekend”. Silence […]
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Transform Grief and Loss: How to Create a Life and Marriage that Thrives
In my last post, “How to Reclaim Your Life and Strengthen Your Marriage” I mentioned that part of the reclamation process is grieving what was lost. In this post, I want to explore more deeply what this means and what this looks like. Little Deaths; Being Abandoned. When we live for some time abandoning ourselves […]
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How to Reclaim Your Life and Strengthen Your Marriage
When I was 24 years old and preparing to marry, my aunt, who was a wise and strong woman, gave me a small, glass ballerina. I had studied ballet while growing up. And since I lived just outside of New York City, I was influenced by the world-renown ballet companies right outside my doorstep and […]
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Three or More Better than Two? A Critique of Megyn Kelly’s approach to consensual non-monogamy
Can we just take a very important pause here to think consciously and intentionally about Megyn Kelly’s interviews about consensual non-monogamy on her March 1st show? Sexism Revealed As a couples therapist who often works with clients who are wrestling with the challenges of monogamy, and/or the challenges of consensual non-monogamy, I was so taken […]
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Christmas, Homecoming, and Heart Connections
Every year at Christmas, my adult children come home from various parts of the country or world, depending on the year. Christmas represents the home-coming season for me; the season of heart connections. Every year when they arrive home, they are carrying different experiences within their hearts. Some years they’ve been weary from travel and […]
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Different Directions Born of the Same Experience
I remember the nurse’s words as he walked me and my husband down a long hallway before my mastectomy: “This is as far as you can go together, time to go in different directions; waiting room to the left, surgery to the right.” Where I was going, my husband could not come. And where he […]
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