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How to Improve your Marriage Without Therapy

Improve your Marriage Without Therapy (in 5 Steps)

This post covers the five things you can do at home today to improve your marriage, so you don’t have to come to couples therapy. Ever think about starting couples therapy to learn how to stop the negative, hurtful, and painful interactions in your marriage? But you don’t follow through with this due to fear […]

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Compassion–Our Greatest Gift in Marriage Ryan Couples Therapy

Compassion: Our Greatest Gift in Marriage

Practice #6 of 6 Core Practices to Create a Healthy Marriage Compassion and empathy, is the 6th practice described in my ebook, Transform Your Relationship: Core Practices To Create A Healthy Marriage. Today, I want to focus on compassion. Without the practice and presence of compassion in an intimate relationship, it becomes even harder to navigate emotionally […]

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Differences – How Healthy Marriages Welcome Them – Ryan Couples Therapy

Differences: How Healthy Marriages Welcome Them

Practice #4 of 6 Core Practices to Create a Healthy Marriage My ebook, Transform Your Relationship: 6 Core Practices to Create a Healthy Marriage, details essential practices you and your partner can work on to strengthen your connection and build a better relationship. The fourth practice I write about in the ebook is Accept, Welcome and Integrate the Differences. […]

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How to Move from Loneliness to True Intimacy (and Transform Your Relationship

How to Move from Loneliness to True Intimacy (and Transform Your Relationship)

Practice #1 of 6 Core Practices to Create a Healthy Marriage In my ebook, Transform Your Relationship: 6 Core Practices to Create a Healthy Marriage, I offer 6 core practices you can engage in with your partner to strengthen your connection and build intimacy. The first practice I discuss is Developing Self Awareness and Acceptance. Without […]

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Transformation, Truth, and Authenticity

Transformation, Truth, and Authenticity

Poet Adrienne Rich defined love this way: “An honorable human relationship – that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love” – is a process… delicate… and often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other.

 It is important to do […]

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Couple embracing – How to Create a Healthy, Vibrant Relationship Without Couples Therapy

How to Create a Healthy, Vibrant Relationship Without Couples Therapy

Don’t you wish there was a class to take in high school or college that taught you how to be a good partner in your intimate relationship? That your parents talked more openly and taught you more about what constitutes healthy, sexual relationships? And that your parents modeled how to effectively resolve conflict by how […]

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How to Bring Up Couples Therapy with Your Partner

How to Bring Up Couples Therapy with Your Partner (6 Dos and Don’ts)

Picture this: You and your partner are about to take off for a lovely romantic weekend away together. As you both are getting ready, a recurring issue surfaces between you. Before you know it, you both are arguing, angry, hurt, and feeling misunderstood. You find yourself having second thoughts about your “lovely romantic weekend”. Silence […]

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Transform Grief and Loss–How to Create a Life and Marriage that Thrives

Transform Grief and Loss: How to Create a Life and Marriage that Thrives

In my last post, “How to Reclaim Your Life and Strengthen Your Marriage” I mentioned that part of the reclamation process is grieving what was lost. In this post, I want to explore more deeply what this means and what this looks like. Little Deaths; Being Abandoned. When we live for some time abandoning ourselves […]

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How to Reclaim Your Life and Strengthen Your Marriage

How to Reclaim Your Life and Strengthen Your Marriage

When I was 24 years old and preparing to marry, my aunt, who was a wise and strong woman, gave me a small, glass ballerina. I had studied ballet while growing up. And since I lived just outside of New York City, I was influenced by the world-renown ballet companies right outside my doorstep and […]

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is three or more better than two?

Three or More Better than Two? A Critique of Megyn Kelly’s approach to consensual non-monogamy

Can we just take a very important pause here to think consciously and intentionally about Megyn Kelly’s interviews about consensual non-monogamy on her March 1st show? Sexism Revealed As a couples therapist who often works with clients who are wrestling with the challenges of monogamy, and/or the challenges of consensual non-monogamy, I was so taken […]

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