Intimacy and Sex

Ryan Therapy Services invites you to explore your own eroticism and sexuality and that of your partner, in a non-judgmental, supportive context. Passion, pleasure, sexual satisfaction and sensuality thrive when partners are curious, open and receptive. Ryan Therapy Services helps clients to address these essential aspects of their relationship with gentle, yet direct and an informed expertise.

Ryan Therapy Services invites you to re-think the sexual scripts and beliefs that you absorbed since birth. Create a new map, engage in something bigger than a focus on “performance”, expand your definition of pleasure. Let go of ideas that no longer serve you and begin to create a vibrant, satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationship.

Ryan Therapy Services helps clients of all sexual identities address obstacles and challenges within themselves, within their relationships and within their lives that may be preventing them from experiencing the sense of deep connection and belonging, pleasure and joy, and the satisfaction and fulfillment that comes from embracing our true, erotic and sexual nature.

A Sex Positive Approach

Many cultural forces work to define sex from a negative, shame-based and fear based perspective. As a result of these powerful cultural influences, many individuals struggle with feelings of anxiety, shame and guilt around their own sexuality. Adding to this, for many of us, is a lack of quality sexual education.

A sex positive approach is a way of thinking about sex and integrating sexuality into one’s life and relationships with acceptance, a non-judgmental attitude, curiosity, respect and trust. It embraces all kinds of sexual activity and expression as long as it is consensual and does not hurt others. It moves away from thinking about sex from a “performance-based” model and moves toward thinking about sex as a positive, loving force originating in one’s deepest erotic self.

If deep in your heart you desire to create a more fulfilling, satisfying, and intimate sexual experience, Ryan Therapy Services invites you to take the next step and call for an appointment.

You are invited to explore your own sexuality and your partner, especially if:

  • You struggle to express your deepest desires for fear of rejection, being judged or misunderstood.
  • You want to open up to your partner both emotionally and physically, but you were taught as a child to never allow yourself to be vulnerable.
  • You experience guilt, shame or fear when you consider asking for what you desire.
  • You define asking for what you want as “selfish” and so you avoid being clear about your wants, desires, hopes, etc.
  • You are afraid to, or do not know how to, talk to your partner about what you want sexually. You know what you want, but are afraid of being judged.
  • You do not know what you want sexually, but are aware that some of your ideas and beliefs about sex no longer fit for you.
  • You are having frequent sex, but do not enjoy the sex you are having.
  • You worry that your partner is no longer attracted to you; or, you are no longer attracted to your partner.
  • You can’t relax during sex and find yourself being self-critical.
  • You and your partner have different desire levels.
  • You are interested in sexual activity that your partner is not interested in.
  • Your are anxious about your body.

Ryan Therapy Services can help you and your partner cultivate a sustainable and vibrant, intimate, sexual relationship.