Mutually Supportive and Authentic Relationships

I recently have been blessed with an opportunity to join a mentoring group. It is made up of therapists, like me, who desire to be the best they can be and contribute to the world in positive, transformative ways. The ways I have already benefited from this group are varied and hard to put into […]

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Our Intuitive Self

It is so easy to lose touch with our natural rhythms and connection to our inner life and soul. Pressures and expectations from many different sources (family, cultural, religious, work) often pull us in the opposite direction of living from our true nature. Its easy to find ourselves focusing only on getting our interminable “to […]

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Engagement

How engaged are you with your partner when he/she is sharing an emotion or experience? Do you find yourself thinking of other things, feeling bored, starting to feel defensive, hurrying them along so that you can talk…. Or are you fully focused on them, ask questions out of a true desire to understand their world, […]

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Our Evolving Sexuality

When: Thursday October 9th, 7pm to 9pm. Where: Firefly Energy Studio, Gateway Business Center, 2605 Jahn Ave. #4 Gig Harbor, Wa. Fee: $25 per person To Register: Call Jane Ryan at 253 209-2365. Please join me for a two hour workshop focusing on how our sexuality evolves and changes as we go through the life […]

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Responding vs. Reacting

“Between the stimulus and the response there is a space, and in that space is your power and your freedom.” Viktor Frankl In this culture of immediacy and instant gratification, we often forget that we have the choice to slow down and think, before responding. Giving ourselves this time, we can begin to participate in […]

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Equanimity

Equanimity: mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation. I often start my sessions with couples asking them to write on a piece of paper three words that describe HOW they want to be during our session. This begins the process of clarifying what kind of partner they aspire to be […]

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Awakening

“Uncertainty and unpredictability, impermanence and change, good times and hard times, sorrow and joy, loss and gain… all of this constitutes our home ground, the mandala of our life, our base for practicing fearlessness and compassion…. there could be no more fertile ground for our awakening.” Pema Chodron. Growth occurs when we let the fullness […]

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Letting Go

In a recent yoga class, my wonderful, gentle instructor, Adi Amar, said, ” the more you can let go, the more you will receive.” I think all of us, at some point in our lives, struggle to Let Go. Whether we are holding onto a negative storyline, an old or recent conflict, emotions that make […]

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the importance of safety

“to be human, one has to be safe” unknown author. How true this is; our human-ness requires us to be vulnerable; in order to be vulnerable we need to know we are in an emotional and relational context that will support us and be safe. How do you let your partner know that they are […]

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Sexual Addiction, Part Two: If not an addict, then what?

In my last post, I described the pitfalls of accepting the label of “sex addict”. But with that label being tossed around so frequently and easily today, how do we begin to think of compulsive, sexually acting out behavior in a different way? If we do not define people struggling in this way as sex addicts, […]

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