balancing the surface and the deep

Balancing the Surface and the Deep

As the quiet days of January and deep winter settle upon us, I have been thinking of one of life’s greatest challenges: how to stay connected to the deeper more meaningful aspects of life while tending to the surface aspects of the never-ending, mundane tasks of our daily routines. I always feel calmer, more peaceful, […]

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christmas, homecoming and heart connections

Christmas, Homecoming, and Heart Connections

Every year at Christmas, my adult children come home from various parts of the country or world, depending on the year. Christmas represents the home-coming season for me; the season of heart connections. Every year when they arrive home, they are carrying different experiences within their hearts. Some years they’ve been weary from travel and […]

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thanksgiving remembered

Thanksgiving Remembered

With Thanksgiving fast approaching, I have found myself thinking of thanksgivings past. I have such cherished memories of Thanksgiving with my family, growing up in New Jersey. Every year, my parents and my older sister and younger brother would go to my aunt and uncle’s house. For me, this was the place of childhood joy […]

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How to Practice Self Awareness and Create a Stronger Marriage

Self awareness is one of the keys to creating a strong marriage. One contributing factor of thriving relationships is each partner’s ability to understand and accept themselves through the practice of self awareness. When both partners are able to clarify and express their thoughts, perspectives, experiences and their emotions effectively in an atmosphere of receptivity, […]

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Understanding and Inviting Eroticism Into Our Lives

I was asked the other day, “What is eroticism?”. In fact, I get asked this question a lot in my work. Mostly because as soon as clients talk about sex, I introduce the idea of the erotic. Much of my work with clients focuses on helping them deepen their understanding of eroticism as a way […]

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How Daily Practice Leads to a Happy, Healthy Marriage: Three Easy Steps to Create Positive Change

How Daily Practice Leads to a Happy, Healthy Marriage: Three Easy Steps to Create Positive Change

A happy, healthy marriage sounds easy when we first fall in love. But as we settle into the routine of daily life, we quickly realize that sustaining a happy, healthy marriage requires us to nourish, protect, and energize it. Happy, healthy marriages do not happen overnight or automatically once we fall in love. There are […]

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Different Directions Born of the Same Experience

I remember the nurse’s words as he walked me and my husband down a long hallway before my mastectomy: “This is as far as you can go together, time to go in different directions; waiting room to the left, surgery to the right.” Where I was going, my husband could not come. And where he […]

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

I am a believer in letting others know that you love them every day, not just on Valentine’s Day… but since February 14th is a day dedicated to love, I embrace this day joyfully. How can we not be happy for any moment in life which encourages us to express our love and open our […]

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The Elusiveness of Transformation.

What is transformation and how do we access it? What’s more, how do we take our own suffering and pain and transform it into an experience of meaning and wisdom? When I first got diagnosed with breast cancer, I thought about others who described how their illness became an experience of transformation. I wanted this, […]

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The Courage of Others: How the Coast Guard and Breast Cancer Intersected in my Life

Sometimes, it is not enough to rely on our own courage. Sometimes, it is necessary to rely on the courage of others; especially when our own courage is lacking. As I have reflected on my last year’s experience of breast cancer, the courage of my husband is one of the most salient aspects of the […]

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