Asking for Help

Recently, my husband and I embarked on a bathroom remodel. Our excitement about new fixtures, new tiles and updated aesthetics, quickly gave way to frustration and stress resulting from construction upheaval, unforeseen structural issues, and scheduling mishaps. Initially, we were able to manage the stress by continuing to keep as much to our schedule and […]

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The Gift of Eroticism

My favorite sex therapist in the whole world is Esther Perel. I am inspired by her intelligence, her thought provoking ideas, her infectious enthusiasm, and her wisdom about how to create vibrant, deep connections with self and another through our own eroticism… she is just a gem! Perel’s perspective emphasizes living fully engaged and celebrating […]

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Transformation

I spend my days helping couples in distress create vibrant and deeply connected relationships. Learning how to be an effective, confident couples’ therapist came from years of training  AND… The two darkest moments of my life: The first was the death of my mother when I was 20 years old; the second was the death […]

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Mutually Supportive and Authentic Relationships

I recently have been blessed with an opportunity to join a mentoring group. It is made up of therapists, like me, who desire to be the best they can be and contribute to the world in positive, transformative ways. The ways I have already benefited from this group are varied and hard to put into […]

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Our Intuitive Self

It is so easy to lose touch with our natural rhythms and connection to our inner life and soul. Pressures and expectations from many different sources (family, cultural, religious, work) often pull us in the opposite direction of living from our true nature. Its easy to find ourselves focusing only on getting our interminable “to […]

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Engagement

How engaged are you with your partner when he/she is sharing an emotion or experience? Do you find yourself thinking of other things, feeling bored, starting to feel defensive, hurrying them along so that you can talk…. Or are you fully focused on them, ask questions out of a true desire to understand their world, […]

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Our Evolving Sexuality

When: Thursday October 9th, 7pm to 9pm. Where: Firefly Energy Studio, Gateway Business Center, 2605 Jahn Ave. #4 Gig Harbor, Wa. Fee: $25 per person To Register: Call Jane Ryan at 253 209-2365. Please join me for a two hour workshop focusing on how our sexuality evolves and changes as we go through the life […]

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Responding vs. Reacting

“Between the stimulus and the response there is a space, and in that space is your power and your freedom.” Viktor Frankl In this culture of immediacy and instant gratification, we often forget that we have the choice to slow down and think, before responding. Giving ourselves this time, we can begin to participate in […]

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Equanimity

Equanimity: mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation. I often start my sessions with couples asking them to write on a piece of paper three words that describe HOW they want to be during our session. This begins the process of clarifying what kind of partner they aspire to be […]

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Awakening

“Uncertainty and unpredictability, impermanence and change, good times and hard times, sorrow and joy, loss and gain… all of this constitutes our home ground, the mandala of our life, our base for practicing fearlessness and compassion…. there could be no more fertile ground for our awakening.” Pema Chodron. Growth occurs when we let the fullness […]

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